Do you feel happy sometimes and unhappy at other times? Are you confused? Do you feel restricted? Are you watching most things you say and do around him? Do you only do the things he wants to do when he wants to do them? Do you make excuses for his bad behaviour to your friends? Does he monitor who you see and where you go? Is he jealous a lot? Are you seeing less of your friends and more of him? Do you feel it's your fault things go wrong with him? Does he blame you if things go wrong? Do you think if you tried harder things would be okay? Do you think if you tried harder you could help him feel better? Does he yell at you and call you names? Do you feel scared of him, especially when you are alone? Has he ever physically hurt you? Do you feel you are in danger? ENTER YOUR TOTAL: If you scored over 7 or ticked any of the last three boxes we would like you to e-mail our Girl's Stories or ring 09 410 6736 Have you or your friends had experiences like this? Tell us.